📖 Introduction
Have you ever tried desperately to change someone you love, only to find yourself becoming increasingly frustrated and emotionally exhausted? In marriage, we sometimes believe that happiness depends on our partner changing their personality or behavior. But when our efforts fail, disappointment can turn into resentment, anger, and profound emotional suffering.
In this deeply moving meditation testimonial, a 39-year-old woman shares how years of marital struggles, depression, and overwhelming fear brought her to an emotional breaking point. After trying books, counseling, and other approaches, she discovered mind subtraction meditation. Through looking honestly at her own mind, she began recognizing hidden feelings of inferiority, pride, and resentment, experiencing a remarkable personal transformation that gave her renewed hope for happiness.
💬 Story: 🌷 “Both My Husband and I, Now Only Happy Things Remain”
By Sunyoung Kang / Age 39 / Level 1
Living in the world, I think I lived diligently with the creed “You can do it if you try.” I made efforts myself, produced results, and had satisfaction in that too.
However, after getting married, my feelings reached the point of thinking I wanted to commit suicide. For me, who thought suicide equals giving up, that was a truly difficult thing.
Feeling frustrated by my husband’s personality, to fix him, I diligently read books as my usual self, told him positive stories, and made efforts every single day to fix him, saying nothing is impossible.
My husband also resisted at first, but gradually read over 500 books and tried to make an effort. However, his appearance couldn’t easily change, and even I fell into depression and went into an irreversible mental state of losing my mind.
My husband gave up, trying to get his mind straight and take care of the child, but I was falling apart terribly, unable to return to my former self anymore.
Becoming scared and afraid of even raising my child, I spent my days crying and raging.
Leaving my husband aside, I went to counseling, but they were all things I had already read in books.
Listening to a monk’s story about ‘reincarnation’, I tried to get my mind straight to return to my child, but it didn’t work.
Eventually, thinking the cause seemed to be the wounds in my heart, I searched the internet for healing wounds and subtracting wounds, and participated in a 1-night 2-day camp without expectations.
“At that time, the moment I heard the lecture, I told the helper, ‘This is it, this is the only way.'”
After that, I went to the local center for a month, packed my bags, and entered the Main Center with my child.
First, I felt my anger disappear, my mind disappear, and my fear disappear. It truly felt like a dream.
Second, I could finally see myself.
“To me, who pretended to be smart, pretended to be moral, and pretended to be excellent while walking on eggshells around others to hide my inferiority complex, my husband was an obstacle and an embarrassment.”
Now, only happy things remain.
Helper, thank you very, very much, and you are excellent.
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🌱 NEXT STEPS: Stop Trying to Change Others and Begin Understanding Yourself
Are you exhausted from trying to change your spouse or struggling with anger, resentment, and emotional pain in your relationships? Sometimes, understanding our own expectations and hidden insecurities can offer a new perspective on the people we love.
Mind subtraction meditation provides a structured opportunity to reflect on accumulated thoughts and emotional patterns. As Sunyoung Kang’s experience illustrates, looking within can become a meaningful step toward greater self-understanding, emotional relief, and healthier relationships.
Meditation can complement, but should not replace, professional mental health care when depression or suicidal thoughts are involved.
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