๐ Introduction
Marriage can become deeply painful when long-term illness, emotional exhaustion, stress, and repeated arguments continue unresolved for years.
Even couples who genuinely love each other can gradually become trapped in frustration, emotional distance, defensiveness, and endless conflict.
This heartfelt meditation testimonial shares the story of JS S., a public official whose family faced a serious crisis during the ninth year of marriage when his wifeโs unexplained illness gradually worsened.
Although they visited major hospitals and underwent surgery, no clear diagnosis or solution was ever found. As physical suffering deepened, emotional conflict within the family intensified as well.
But through meditation and deep self-reflection, both husband and wife gradually began letting go of emotional wounds, stress, wandering thoughts, defensiveness, and the exhausting minds they had carried for years.
As their minds changed, their marriage naturally changed too.
Communication softened. Their home became peaceful again. Emotional conflict decreased. Work life improved. And together, they rediscovered genuine happiness as a family.
This meditation testimonial beautifully demonstrates how changing the mind can heal relationships, restore emotional balance, improve communication, and create lasting family harmony.
๐ฌ Meditation Testimonial: โWhat Kind of Mind Did You Let Go of Today?โ
By JS S. | Public Official
During the ninth year of our marriage, our family faced a serious crisis.
My wife, who had already been physically weak even before marriage, became increasingly ill with a condition that doctors could not clearly identify.
As her illness worsened, the entire family suffered.
Throughout our marriage, she constantly talked about being sick and lived in discomfort every day.
Although I understood that she was suffering, coming home gradually stopped feeling comfortable for me.
And as her illness deepened, our fights became more frequent and more intense.
๐ง๏ธ The Difficult Years of Living With an Illness No One Could Explain
We visited major hospitals, and she even underwent surgery, but no clear diagnosis or cause was ever found.
As time passed, my wife became increasingly sensitive and emotionally exhausted, and our arguments eventually became deeply hurtful.
One day, after desperately searching everywhere for healing, she told me she wanted to visit a center for this meditation.
At the time, we were both emotionally worn out, so I agreed without much hesitation.
Leaving our two young children with her parents nearby, she left during the summer vacation of 2002 with plans to stay for three months.
โจ The Astonishing Change After Three Months
Three months later, something remarkable happened.
When my wife returned home, her eyes were bright and her face looked peaceful and refreshed.
She had become warmer and more affectionate than even during our newlywed days.
Before, if I came home even a little late, she would become upset, often leading to arguments.
But now, she became much more understanding about my work and even my social gatherings involving drinking.
She had returned to the lovable person I first fell in love with โ the kind of person who was simply wonderful to be around.
It seemed as though she had overcome some major emotional barrier and regained confidence.
She looked vibrant and alive again, almost as if she had never been sick.
Previously, even while struggling physically herself, she worried about every little detail regarding the children, which often caused conflict between us.
But now, she had learned to trust the children more and allow them greater freedom.
Because of her changes, our family became more harmonious than ever before.
Naturally, I also wanted to treat her better.
Although I never openly said it, deep down I thought:
โThis meditation really works.โ
๐ Understanding for Myself Why My Wife Had Changed
About a year later, during summer vacation, my wife suggested that I try this meditation as well.
I was not especially enthusiastic at first, but eventually I agreed.
After spending one week practicing at the main center in Nonsan, I finally began to understand why my wife had changed so positively.
For the first time, I felt hope that the endless worries, wandering thoughts, and inner conflicts constantly filling my mind could actually disappear.
Even though it was difficult to extend my vacation from work, I managed to receive permission for another week.
As I reflected on myself through meditation, I realized something important.
Since childhood, I had loved staring at the night sky and imagining fantasy worlds disconnected from reality.
Because of that, I naturally grew up somewhat introverted.
But at the same time, I hated appearing introverted to others.
So I constantly tried to appear outgoing and energetic instead.
In doing so, I realized I had spent my entire life living with a divided mind and endless inner conflict.
๐ฑ Letting Go of the Mind That Constantly Protected Itself
Through meditation, I realized that I had created different versions of myself depending on the situation, always trying to protect myself.
Those defensive minds had exhausted me my entire life.
I also came to realize that desires such as:
- Wanting to impress others
- Wanting recognition
- Wanting honor and status
were never part of my true nature to begin with.
As I continuously discarded those attachments through meditation, the minds that had once felt like traps gradually broke apart and disappeared.
Now, instead of relying on appearances or pretending to be someone else, I can confidently live as my genuine self.
And that makes me truly happy.
๐ฟ A Happier Family and Greater Peace at Work
Changes also appeared in my workplace.
The amount of time I wasted lost in unnecessary fantasies and wandering thoughts greatly decreased.
Now, whether at work or in daily life, I feel mentally clear and focused.
Whenever stress or conflict arises, I quietly practice meditation and let those minds go.
In the past, people often described me as sharp or intimidating.
Now coworkers tell me:
โYour expressions and tone of voice have become much softer.โ
Today, my wife and I continue practicing this meditation together at our local center.
On our way home afterward, we often ask each other:
โWhat kind of mind did you let go of today?โ
My wife, having regained her health, eventually began working as a contract teacher.
Seeing her now โ energetic, lively, and full of life โ brings me tremendous happiness.
Looking back, when she was sick, I used to say things like:
โYou need to change your mindset if you want to recover.โ
Yet instead of caring for her gently, I simply pressured her to change first.
Now, rather than just speaking, I try to show love through actions โ even if it is something simple like washing the dishes.
There is also a neighboring family around our age with children similar in age to ours.
They often tell us they envy how harmonious our family seems.
And now, when I look back, the years we spent fighting and suffering together feel almost like a distant dream.
