๐ Introduction
Many parents sincerely love their children, yet unknowingly repeat the same emotional wounds, anger, control, and harsh parenting styles they themselves experienced growing up.
Generational pain often continues silently through families.
This deeply moving meditation testimonial shares the story of Gi-chun L., a self-employed business owner who once believed that being a strict, authoritarian father was simply part of his responsibility as the head of the household.
Raised under a harsh and emotionally distant father, he grew up carrying resentment, pressure, and emotional pain. Without realizing it, he eventually became exactly like the father he never wanted to resemble.
His relationship with his son gradually broke down. His son became rebellious, emotionally distant, and eventually even ran away from home.
But through meditation and deep self-reflection, Gi-chun finally began understanding not only his sonโs pain, but also the hidden suffering his own father had carried throughout life.
As he learned to let go of resentment, pride, anger, and control, sincere apologies, healing, understanding, and love naturally emerged within the family.
Today, three generations of the family live together peacefully under one roof โ something he once believed would have been impossible.
This meditation testimonial beautifully demonstrates how healing the mind can restore family relationships, improve parenting, deepen communication, and create genuine happiness within the home.
๐ฌ Meditation Testimonial: โIโm Sorry, Sonโฆ I Thought That Was Just How Fathers Were Supposed to Beโ
By Gi-chun L. | Self-Employed Business Owner
Our family lives together as three generations under one roof:
my wife and I, our son and daughter-in-law, our two grandsons, and even a third grandchild who will soon be born.
In the past, I was an extremely authoritarian man.
If the dining table had been prepared but my spoon was missing, I would explode in anger, shouting things like:
โAre you telling me to eat or not eat?!โ
Looking back now, I realize that if I were still like that, my children would never have wanted to live together with me.
๐ฑ Becoming Exactly Like the Father I Never Wanted to Resemble
My father was the fifth-generation eldest descendant of a traditionally respected family in Wanju, Jeollabuk-do.
I was born as the eldest son among seven siblings and became the sixth-generation eldest descendant of the family.
My father had a fiery temper.
If something displeased him even slightly, he would overturn the dining table in anger.
He never praised his children.
We grew up quietly holding our breath, constantly afraid of being scolded.
When I was in middle school, my fatherโs business failed.
From that point on, I carried the heavy burden of believing that, as the eldest son, I had to support the family.
I married at twenty-four and ran various businesses with my wife.
Our son was born the year after we married.
Believing that children needed strict discipline, I focused only on correcting mistakes and scolding him harshly.
There were even times when I forced him outside naked as punishment.
My son had great artistic talent and desperately wanted to study art, but according to my standards at the time, that idea was unacceptable.
So I repeatedly refused.
Even though I had always promised myself:
โI should never become like my father,โ
before I realized it, I had become exactly like him.
My son gradually became rebellious.
By high school, he barely attended classes, and during his senior year, he even ran away from home entirely.
I became furious, thinking:
โI did everything for him โ how could he behave like this?โ
๐ง โI Only Repeated What I Had Learnedโฆ Iโm Sorryโ
Only after practicing this meditation did I finally understand how much my son had suffered.
During meditation, the two people I repented toward most deeply were:
- My father
- My son
Since childhood, I had struggled so much trying to support my family that I even thought:
โIt would be better if I had no parents.โ
I had carried resentment toward my father deep inside my heart for many years.
But through meditation, as I reflected deeply on my life, I finally began understanding my fatherโs pride, environment, and hardships.
For the first time, I could feel:
- My fatherโs pain
- My fatherโs sorrow
- His inability to express love differently
The same realization came regarding my son.
I realized that because he had a father like me, he could not pursue the dreams and studies he truly loved and instead wandered painfully through life.
Remembering how I had only harshly scolded him without ever offering warmth or encouragement caused my heart tremendous pain.
Eventually, I sincerely apologized to my son.
โI only repeated what I had seen and learned growing up. I thought that was how fathers were supposed to act. I wronged you in so many ways. Iโm sorry.โ
My son and I cried together for a long time.
Gradually, my tone of voice softened.
I began listening carefully to my family members instead of trying to control them.
And naturally, once the head of the household changed, the atmosphere of the entire family changed as well.
๐ก The Secret to Three Generations Living Happily Together
My son dated his wife for six years before marrying in 2004.
My daughter-in-law also practices this meditation.
In fact, my son and daughter-in-law were the ones who first suggested that we all live together as one family.
Since then, I have never once heard my wife complain about or criticize our daughter-in-law.
Instead, she often says:
โMaybe the reason our whole family can live together happily is because we all practice this meditation.โ
My thoughtful daughter-in-law also says:
โI think practicing this meditation before marriage helped us build a happy family.โ
Because my wife, son, and daughter-in-law often stay up late managing both household responsibilities and their PC cafรฉ business, I naturally began helping with daily chores myself.
As the first person awake each morning, I now:
- Clean the house
- Fold laundry
- Prepare meals
One morning, seeing how exhausted my son and daughter-in-law looked after working late into the night, I quietly prepared breakfast and woke them up.
Later, my daughter-in-law laughed and said:
โWhen I saw that, I almost fainted from shock.โ
And everyone laughed together.
Even I sometimes feel amazed by how much I have changed.
โค๏ธ Learning the Importance of Love
Now, I hug my grandchildren often.
Instead of harsh punishment, I encourage understanding and communication.
Through meditation, I finally realized how important it is for children to grow up receiving:
- Love
- Warmth
- Encouragement
- Praise
For most of my life, I never truly understood the meaning of family or happiness.
I lived only carrying the burden of feeding and supporting everyone.
But now, after finally putting down that burden, I can sincerely say:
โSo this is what happiness feels like.โ
And now, I live fully enjoying it every day.
