📖 INTRODUCTION
Many people struggle with relationships.
We often feel misunderstood, disappointed, betrayed, or frustrated by others. Over time, these experiences can create invisible walls that separate us from coworkers, friends, customers, and even family members.
But what if those walls are not created by other people?
What if they exist only within our own minds?
This meditation testimonial shares the story of Min-gu H., an office worker and sales professional who spent years feeling frustrated by people around him.
Although he appeared outgoing and successful, he constantly felt that others failed to understand him. As disappointments accumulated, he became emotionally exhausted and increasingly isolated.
Through Master Woo Myung’s meditation method, he began a journey of self-reflection that completely transformed his relationships, career, and understanding of human connection.
What he discovered changed everything:
The walls between people had never existed at all.
💬 MEDITATION TESTIMONIAL: “THERE ARE WALLS BETWEEN PEOPLE? NO — THE WALLS NEVER EXISTED”
By Min-gu H. | Office Worker
💭 “Why Don’t People Understand Me?”
After graduating from college, I entered sales.
Because I was naturally outgoing, people often told me:
“You’re perfect for sales.”
For several years, things went well.
But around my eighth year in the profession, multiple difficulties struck me at once.
I became exhausted.
Discouraged.
Emotionally drained.
Eventually, I even started avoiding people.
The same thoughts repeated endlessly in my mind:
“Why doesn’t anyone understand me?”
“Why is everyone so selfish?”
At the time, I believed the problem was other people.
Later, I realized something completely different.
The person I resented most was actually myself.
🚪 STEP 1 — DISCOVERING WHERE THE WALLS CAME FROM
🌿 The Words That Changed My Life
During one of the most difficult periods of my life, a senior colleague whom I deeply respected was dying from liver cancer.
Two days before he passed away, he called me over and said:
“When you look back on life, it feels like a dream you pass through only once.”
“Money and work are important, but don’t forget to look back on your life often.”
Those words shook me deeply.
I could no longer focus on work.
Soon afterward, I left everything behind and visited a meditation center.
I was thirty-five years old.
There, I began seeing the walls I had built between myself and the world.
💰 “Money Had Become My Identity”
As I reflected on my life, I discovered something painful.
Even when I acted friendly toward people, I often viewed them as tools to help me achieve my goals.
I rarely cared about others sincerely.
At the same time, I had become obsessed with money.
While working full-time, I constantly pursued side businesses and investments.
Part of it came from responsibility as the oldest son.
But much of it came from greed.
Eventually:
- My investments failed
- My business failed
- I accumulated significant debt
- Someone I trusted betrayed me
For years, I blamed that person.
Then I realized something uncomfortable.
“That person was simply reflecting me.”
I had also valued money more than people.
I had been using financial success to compensate for my insecurity and inferiority.
Because money had become my identity, genuine relationships became impossible.
😤 “Everything Was Someone Else’s Fault”
Looking back, I blamed everyone for my struggles.
- My environment
- Coworkers
- Customers
- Circumstances
I constantly thought:
“I work harder than everyone else.”
“Why won’t people cooperate?”
“Why don’t people understand me?”
In reality, my world revolved entirely around myself.
Recognition.
Pride.
Status.
Success.
Without realizing it, I had built wall after wall around my heart.
🧱 STEP 2 — BREAKING DOWN THE WALLS
🎥 Watching My Life Like a Movie
At the meditation center, I replayed my entire life as though watching a movie.
Memory after memory appeared.
And in every scene, I saw how I had treated other people.
The realization was painful.
I finally saw myself clearly.
I was:
- Proud
- Self-centered
- Greedy
- Stubborn
- Obsessed with myself
I cried.
I felt ashamed.
I felt unable to lift my head before the people I had hurt.
That was when I began letting go.
I discarded:
- Greed for money
- Pride
- Superiority
- Selfishness
- The habit of blaming others
As those minds disappeared, gratitude naturally began replacing resentment.
For the first time, I felt the walls inside me begin to collapse.
And for the first time, I understood how I truly wanted to live.
🌎 STEP 3 — “THE WALLS NEVER EXISTED”
✨ A Surprising Realization
Eventually, a simple realization appeared:
“The walls between people were never real.”
The walls existed only because I created them.
Nobody was truly above me.
Nobody was below me.
We were simply people.
As that realization deepened, respect for others emerged naturally.
And my life began changing.
💼 “I’m Not a Salesman — I’m a Helper”
In 2006, I started over at a new company.
This time, my approach was completely different.
Previously, I focused only on results.
Now, I focused on helping people.
Instead of asking:
“How can I sell something?”
I asked:
“What difficulty are you facing?”
“How can I help?”
Even when helping brought me no immediate benefit, I sincerely tried to support others.
I stopped chasing success.
Ironically, that was when success began finding me.
Customers sought me out.
When I asked why, many answered:
“We can feel your sincerity.”
“We trust you.”
Eventually, I became one of the company’s top-performing salespeople and paid off all my debts.
🤝 “The Fastest Way to Open Someone’s Heart”
One lesson became very clear.
Relationships improve only when we first tear down our own walls.
Now, whenever conflict arises, I try to see situations objectively rather than emotionally.
And when I don’t understand something, I ask directly instead of making assumptions.
Most misunderstandings disappear surprisingly quickly when approached that way.
🌱 “When I Opened My Heart First, Others Opened Theirs Too”
I also witnessed this principle inside the workplace.
Sales teams and technical support teams often clash.
Salespeople sometimes become arrogant because they generate revenue.
Instead of demanding help, I encouraged my team to approach others with humility.
Rather than pretending to know everything, we learned to say:
“We honestly don’t understand this very well yet.”
“Could you help us learn?”
Something surprising happened.
People responded warmly.
Departments began cooperating naturally.
Relationships improved.
Work became smoother.
Trust grew.
💙 “When You Tear Down Your Own Wall First…”
Today, my conclusion is simple:
When you tear down your own wall first, the other person’s wall begins to fall as well.
And perhaps that is where genuine human connection begins.
🌟 CONCLUSION
Min-gu’s story demonstrates that many relationship problems do not begin with other people—they begin with the judgments, expectations, pride, and emotional walls we build within ourselves.
Through meditation, he discovered how self-centered thinking, insecurity, greed, and the desire for recognition had shaped his interactions for years.
As those walls disappeared, sincerity replaced manipulation, gratitude replaced resentment, and trust replaced conflict.
The result was not only better relationships, but also greater success, stronger teamwork, and a deeper sense of purpose.
This meditation testimonial reminds us that genuine connection begins when we are willing to lower our own walls first.
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